Friday, 30 April 2021

How did they meet? Part 3

 As I said in my previous posts (Part 1 and Part 2), when looking at the lives of our ancestors, there is often much guesswork in determining how they got together. Following are some stories about the third-past generations on my wife’s side.

The exercise in trying to imagine how people met forces us to look further at family dynamics and piece together when and why people moved or how they furthered their occupations. Often you need to look at the parents and siblings of both parties and see how and where they lived and if they interacted with other family members. It is no surprise that families stuck together, often, as they do today, supporting each other in times of need, joining forces in work-related enterprises and introducing future spouses.

Findhorn, Morayshire, Scotland ca 1900

Our Great-Grandparents

Hugh MacKay & Isabella Scott (m. 15 May 1857)

Hugh McKay was a widower when he met Isabella Scott. He first married Isabella Thomson in Auchterless, Aberdeenshire, Scotland in 1845. They had six children together, all born in Macduff, Banffshire. She died of uterine haemorrhage, in 1856, on the day she gave birth to their daughter, also named Isabella. The baby did not survive either, succumbing five days later.

The death of Hugh’s wife left him with four children, under the age of ten years who obviously needed care.

Hugh left Banffshire to join a brother in Findhorn, Morayshire, probably looking for support from his extended family. It was there that he would have met Isabella Scott, the 28-year old daughter of Walter Scott and Janet Stalker. Isabella was born at Knockyfin, Morayshire. By 1851 she was living near Kinloss village, about 10 miles to the north and just a couple of miles from Findhorn. On their marriage record, her residence was shown as Craigmill in the Parish of Dallas, about nine miles from Findhorn where Hugh lived.

While we cannot know for sure, it is likely they met through friends or family members in Kinloss. The couple made their home in Findhorn where they had six children between 1858 and 1869. Their marriage lasted 46 years. Both died in Findhorn, Hugh in 1903 and Isabella in 1907.

Forres, Morayshire, Scotland ca 1900

William Hugh Milne & Mary Ann Anderson (m. 4 September 1868)

Curiously, William was born with the surname Mills. His first marriage record says Milne, though, with his father, William Sr., indicated to be a skinner and his mother’s name as Elizabeth Ross. The record of his second marriage to Isabella Munro also shows his name as Mill. His death record says Mills, the informant for which was Duncan Milne, his son.

As far back as they can be traced, the names of his parents and siblings are shown as Mills or Mill. The births of his children, however, from his first marriage were recorded with the Milne name; the two from his second marriage were recorded as Mill and Mills.

The 1871 census shows the surname of William and Mary Ann as Mills. All subsequent censuses show their name as Milne.

William and Mary Ann Anderson probably met in Forres, Morayshire. William had moved there from Aberdeen in the 1860s. The marriage lasted only 14 years as Mary Ann died in 1882 or peritonitis.

Langlands Road, Govan, Scotland ca 1900

Elizabeth Cooper

OK so we don’t know who the father of Elizabeth’s only son, Alexander Cooper (Part 1), was. From his January 1867 birth record we know they probably met in May 1866. Now, coincidentally, that was the month Elizabeth’s sister, Ann Jean got married in Govan, Lanarkshire, Scotland. Elizabeth was the Maid of Honour at the event. It is entirely conceivable (no pun intended) that she quite enjoyed her time there.

Elizabeth came back to her home in the Shetlands and had her baby in Brough the following January. She returned to Govan in 1871 to live with her sister’s family. Living in the same building was a man named John Blackburn, a dock worker from Ireland. They married in Govan in April of that year. Was he the man she met in 1866, one may wonder.

John died in 1885 but the couple appear to have been separated before then as they were living in different places on the 1881 census. Elizabeth married again, in 1892, to James Ross, of Glasgow but living then in Govan. They did not have children together.

Elizabeth died in 1904. I am still trying to find her burial place and am hopeful we might narrow down her son’s biological father through DNA.

John Walker & Sarah McKenzie Russell (m. 8 October 1880)

John Walker was a railroad employee for most of his life. He and Sarah probably met through friends in Elgin, Moray, Scotland, but they were married in Duffus, four miles to the north. Sarah had been born in Burghead, in 1856, seven miles northwest of Elgin. The marriage record does not indicate whether she was employed in any of the three places however it does show they were both living in Elgin at the time.

John’s career as a locomotive engine driver took them to many towns during the next 47 years. Their first daughter was born in Burghead. Their next six children were born in Elgin, the eighth and ninth in Glasgow. In the Glasgow area, they lived in nine separate residences, each one possibly near where John’s main workplace was located.

John died in Glasgow in 1927. Sarah followed in 1930.

High Street, Elgin, Moryshire, Scotland – ca 1900

Thursday, 8 April 2021

How did they meet? Part 2

For generations starting with the great-grandparents, it is more difficult to determine how they met. Often one can surmise how it happened if they lived in the same area around the time they got married, either alone or with family members. So, what follows here is part guess, part deduction.

Our Great-Grandparents

James Shepheard & Mary Elizabeth Pearson (m. 17 June 1890)

For my great-grandparents, James Shepheard and Mary Elizabeth Pearson, how they got together is not quite as straight-forward.

On the 1881 census, Mary’s siblings, Thomas (age 16), John (12) and Louisa (8) are still living with their parents, Charles and Susannah, in Leamington Spa, Warwickshire, England. Fourteen-year old Mary was not at home, nor was she living with any of her other siblings. Mary may have been at school or working, possibly even in Devon. We just don’t know.

In that year, James was living at home, with his parents John and Mary, in Torquay, Devon. He was working as a gentleman’s servant.

By 1890, of course they were married and living in Torquay, 192 miles from Leamington Spa. We might assume one of them travelled to the other’s home city where they could have met but there is no information that confirms that idea. Interestingly, the marriage banns were posted at the Parish Church of St Mary’s in Leamington Priors (Spa), but the marriage took place at the Parish Church in Ellacombe, now part of Torquay, on 17 June 1890. On the marriage record, both gave their residence as Princes Road which was the home of James’s parents.

It is possible that Mary travelled to Torquay to work and that they met there. She is not shown with an occupation on the marriage record, however.

James & Mary Elizabeth 1890

Newton Isaac Thompson & Margaret Mary Anderson (m. 1884)

Both Newton Thompson and Margaret Anderson, other great-grandparents, had arrived in North Dakota with their families from Ontario: Newton in 1879 and Margaret in 1880. They settled in the farming community of Cass County which is where they undoubtedly met. They were probably married in Wheatland County, North Dakota, but no marriage record has been found and no details are shown in the family bible.

Margaret was a widow with one daughter at the time of their marriage. Newton took on the care of both and together they had six more children.

Newton & Margaret in 1885 (left) and 1917 (right)

Isaac Mayfield Miller & Alice Jane Keith (m. 27 November 1866)

Isaac Mayfield Miller was born in Ohio in 1843. His parents, John Conrad Miller and Hannah Tunstall Mayfield, had come to Cincinnati from Indiana around 1840. When John died – about 1846 – Hannah moved back to her father’s farm in Indiana. It was there that Isaac grew up.

Alice (Allie) Jane Keith was born in Indiana in 1846. Her parents, James Blare Keith and Sarah Jane Baker, had farmed in Jennings county, Indiana, from around the time of Allie’s birth.

Issac fought and was wounded with the 22nd Regiment of Indiana Volunteers (Union Army) between 1861 and 1864, during the US civil Ware, afterward returning to Indiana. It is possible Isaac and Sarah met through friends or relatives. Following their marriage on 27 November 1866, they left the state, going first to Illinois, where their first daughter was born, and then on to Kansas.

In 1893 they resettled in Yukon, Canadian county, Oklahoma where they spent the rest of their long lives together. Allie Jane died in 1914 and Isaac in 1925.

Isaac & Sarah Jane (both seated) with children ca 1892

Asa Harvey McDaniel & Margaret Eleanor DeBusk (m. 15 September 1851)

Both Asa Harvey McDaniel and Margaret Eleanor DeBusk were born in Washington Co9unty, Virginia, Asa in 1827 and Margaret in 1835. They grew in the area and no doubt knew each from childhood. The story is told that Asa and his brothers often rode the wagon full of grain to the mill on Rush Creek, in part owned by Margaret’s father.

They were married on 15 September 1851 in the county. They made their home there for almost ten years, having five children, and then moved 100 miles west to Lee County, Virginia, where they had eight more.

Margaret died in 1880. Her obituary spells out the joy and happiness of their almost 30-year marriage, which in part records “during her last illness . . . [s]he was in a happy frame of mind and talked freely and joyfully of her departure. It was a season of refreshing to all present. Just before she entered "the valley of the shadow of death" she called her husband and children around her bed and took an affectionate leave of them, requesting them to meet her in Heaven. Then quietly, yet triumphantly, she passed away to the land of immortality. She leaves a husband and twelve children . . . May they all keep the promise they have made and meet mother in the "sweet bye and bye."

Asa eventually followed his children west to Oklahoma, where he spent his last years, dying in 1901.

Old DeBusk Mill on Rush Creek, Virginia (left); Asa with granddaughters ca 1915 (right)

Tuesday, 30 March 2021

FHF REALLY USEFUL Family History Show - Final Program Listing

 


FHF REALLY USEFUL Family History Show

Saturday 10 April 2021.

The final program is now set for the REALLY USEFUL Family History Show sponsored by the Family History Federation. Here is the list of great talks.

My own presentation is set for 3:30 pm UK time which is 8:30 am where I live. No worries, though. Once premiered the talk recordings will be viewable on the website for up to 7 days (availability may vary after 48 hours) finally ending at Midnight on 17 April 2021

Talks will premiere throughout the day and will not be available for viewing before the published times.

Where possible speakers will be available at the end of their talks for live questions & answers but participants will be able to leave a message on the chat on the day for a response by e-mail if the speaker is not available at the designated time.

It’s not too late to register. Go to the show website at https://www.fhf-reallyuseful.com/events/fhf-really-useful-family-history-show/

RELEASE SCHEDULE (All times are UK DST)

10.15am

·         Beginning your family history research – Steve Manning

·         Missing from home – David Eniffer

·         Mind mapping and its place in organising and guiding your genealogical research – Linda Hammond

·         Researching British India family history for free using online sources – Valmay Young and Beverley Hallam

11.00am     

·         Muck and muscle: canal & railway navvies – Ian Waller

·         The real Mr Selfridge: History of shopping – Ian Porter

·         From Victorians to Elizabethans: Some sources for tracing our English ancestors from 1901-1952 – Janet Few

11.45am     

·         Wartime volunteer medics – Ian Waller

·         Searching for ancestors when you are adopted – Penny Walters

·         The MyHeritage photo world – Daniel Horowitz

12.30pm     

·         Using Irish wills and testamentary records – Natalie Bodle

·         DNA for dummies – Linda Hammond

·         Pauper prisons, pauper palaces: Life in the workhouse – Gillian Draper

1.15pm       

·         Wills pre-1858 – Les Mitchinson

·         Coram’s children: The history of the Foundling Hospital – Jane King

·         The family detective. A forensic look at the history of family photography – Stephen Gill

2.00pm       

·         Searching for Irish Ancestors – Penny Walters

·         The art of criminal conversation: Divorce – Claire Moores

·         Deaths at sea – Ian Waller

2.45pm       

·         The Commonwealth War Graves Commission – Ian Everest

·         Researching women of the Caribbean – Sharon Tomlin

·         Give you research the WDYTYA? treatment – Sarah Williams

3.30pm      

·         Jewish Immigration to the UK from re-admission to WW2 – Jeanette Rosenburg

·         Using parish & other records to determine how natural phenomena affected people and communities – Wayne Shepheard

·         Engaging young people in family history – Merrill White